Where do we begin? I read several online blogs and newsletters and I got this from a newsletter today and thought OMG this is exactly what I feel..I have been through this and I learned from the exp., my story was very similiar to this and it was the hardest thing I ever did and will NEVER do again unless things are absolutly right...and that may be never lol .....I always have put my man first and its the way it should be..work as a team. I had to post this...enjoy. (barb lol i feel another email comin from you )
I have heard the argument before and I've been in this argument before (usually from biological parents) that if a single parent gets married then the kids need to be first in the parents life. But usually the same people will also say that the best thing for kids is to see their parents putting each other first.
What that logic tells me is this: When a man gets married for the first time he is expected to put his wife first, even after they have children. Then this man and his wife get divorced and suddenly his kids are his first priority. Later the man meets a woman and gets married, he doesn't have to shift his priorities. His new wife is less important than the first was because the husband doesn't have to make this wife his first priority this time around. What's their marriage going to be like once his kids move out? If their marriage is indeed still intact. Statistics show that marriges where the kids are given higher priority than the marriage do not last. Also, I don't see why the second wife is less valuable so that she should have to take second place when the first wife was given first place in this man's priority list. If the new wife is in second place, what happens if they have kids? Are these kids by the second class wife lower on the man's priorities than the children by the first class wife?
It gets so confusing. If the man decided to give his wife first priority he would not be loving his chilren any less, he would be doing them a great favor. He would be giving them a loving home which is made stable by a loving marriage. The children will get to experience seeing a loving marriage first hand. If his wife is in first place she will be more motivated to help him with the children and everyone will be happier. The wife given first priority won't be resentful of her stepkids (if you put her second she will resent her stepkids) I can tell you from personal experience it does a great disservice to a child and your marriage when you put the kids first.
I have been on both sides, as a child who has been the first priority of her parents and also a stepmom who was not placed as the first priority in her marriage. I can tell you that from both perspectives it sucks and I was miserable both times. Thankfully, now my husband has me and our marriage as the first priority and I am overall a lot happier. Putting me first doesn't mean that he ignores the needs of his child or always chooses what I want over she wants, nor does it mean that she's being neglected. She's very happy when she is with us and she treats me great, probably because she sees her dad treating me so well. She knows that she is loved.
When I got married I felt more like it was them and me. They already had their bond, they had all their routines, they had all their memories, they already had their whole life. It felt more like they were a couple and I was an outsider. I came into the home (and we moved into a new place, nobody was infringing on anybody's "territory") and they totally expected that I would just know what all their routines were and just fit neatly into their little world. Surprise, I had my own ideas, my own ways of doing things, my own routines...and I did not fit into the cookie cutter that they had been expecting. I was made to feel like a bad person because I was different, I was made to feel that my ideas and the way that I do things were not just different, but WRONG.
It all felt so wrong to me. It felt wrong that my HUSBAND's bond was stronger with his daugther than with me, his wife. It felt wrong that I was constantly being made to feel like a bad person for being different. It felt wrong that my husband let his CHILD have more of a say in household matters than I did. It felt wrong that *I*, his wife, was expected to just go along with what the two of them wanted when he never made *her*, his CHILD go along with any plan that he & I had made. If she said no, then we didn't do it. If I said no, I got scolded. It felt wrong because it was wrong. You aren't supposed to give your child everything that they want while treating your wife like a child!
When we marry a man with kids, the natural order of things is already messed up. The natural order is that the husband and wife spend some time together to get to know each other and to bond and forge a strong relationship. Then when the kids come along, the husband and wife are united and both get to start with the same children at the same time and they are able to help and support each other with the children and the children learn to love and respect the husband and wife at the same time and get to bond while they are babies. (Yeah, I know, in a perfect world.) We stepmoms miss out on all that and our marriages are off balance, at least for a little while, because of this because the order has been messed up. We have to work and fight for our bond and relationship with our husbands and we have to work and fight ten times harder for a bond and relationship with our stepkids...if we even want it!
My husband and I both learned a lot about priorities and have learned to put our marriage in the right spot in order to make the whole family work. It has just taken a lot longer than it would have if we were a "normal" family.
As I laid in bed last nite, I thought about how long I have wanted to write this blog, I'm no expert and these are just my thoughts and I appreciate any kind of feedback from anyone , if u agree or disagree...I had so much on my mind and I got to thinking what do women want or need out of a relationship with all honesty . Things started to pop in my mind left and right...Now as the saying goes "women are complicated creatures" and men are simple creatures. I do not fully believe that. My friend and I were talking last week and she said "men are happy if you give them food and a blow job everyday" ...I don't believe that is entirely true but it does make sense to me..I think both male and females have different sets of needs that just don't match up at all and without open communication everyone is doomed for failure. Relationships, love, marriage, are so complicated!
Over time I feel like we all have a way of taking each other for granted, falling into predictable routines, this is where the novelty is replaced with predictability. Everything used to be so exciting and later it feels mechanical. This dosn't have to happen. We allow it to happen because its easier to give up the work that a relationship takes.
I think that men need to feel nurtured and appreciated, accepted and trusted. What men don't understand is when a woman is happy he will get what he needs and more. Love can only be understood in action and with action is the giving. Nothing is worse then a selfish mate (and I've had one in the past) Practicing randon acts of kindness and selfless acts can go so far!
I believe now that we can love another unconditionally other then family or children. When we truly love another without condition we help them feel secure, safe, validated and worthy. It makes it easier for somebody who feels this to cooperate, contribute, and have self discipline...
Love doesnt just die, it stops from neglect, blindness, indifferences and being taken for granted. If you dont water the flower it dies! Once loves starts fading partners seen to give up instead of trying to water it. Some men start out a relationship "courting" or I call it prince charming phase doing all those little things we LOVE! We fall in love and it stops! Women fall for this because we need to feel fulfilled which means feeling loved and appreciated. This is a true need. One or two expressions will not last a lifetime.
We all have pots that need filling...over and over. Doing little things fills our pots. when our pot is full we feel loved which in turn gives the man greater love acceptance, appreciation, and respect. Lots of little things are needed to fill a womans pot.
1. She wants you to tell her you love her, no matter how many times you said it in the past keep saying it...if you neglect to tell her she will start to think you dont after awhile. (you have nothing to loose here)
2. She wants you to touch her! Why do we love to cuddle? I think it nurtures our body and spirit and we need it.
3.She wants to be your priority and wants you to consider her needs.
4. She wants to think that no other woman compares to her ..(humor me here just like does this dress make me look fat) sometimes you have to tell fibs.
5. She wants you to talk nice things about her to your family and friends.
6. She wants you to feel proud of her
7. she wants you to prove your love by doing little actions and surprises
8. she wants you to compliment her! If you think something positive about her she really wants to know.
9. She wants tlc when shes sick, she wants somebody to take care of her without asking
10. She wants a strong man, not to needy but not to independant where she doesnt feel needed at all.
11. she wants romance, court her!
12. she wants you to listen to her and have communication,
I think these are the main wants of MOST women, learning from experience or talking to different women.
A successful way to determine how much we truly care for someone is to take into consideration how high their happiness and welfare are on your priority list. This does not mean we should constantly readjust our lives for sake of our lover. However , we might be able to look within ourselves and judge how much we value our relationship by taking an honest look at our priorities.
Like I said before I am no expert in relationships, I have had several failed ones thses are just my observations of my surroundings of friends, family, myself etc. I can not honestly say what a man wants all jokes aside because Im not a man. I hope this helps better understand your woman, now go give her some love!
***jen***
and Im back. I missed my blogging and my deep thoughts posts. I moved, living in a 3 bedroom house with just my boys and very content. My new boyfriend Patrick is just as wonderful as can be and he makes me believe in love :) He makes me want to better myself and grounds me and i see big goals ahead in my future, personal goals and professional goals.
Many people find themselves contemplating goals that seem outrageous or unattainable. Some resist the urge to jump, paralyzed by their current circumstances and the life of their dreams. Others make a leap of faith into the unknown, unsure of what they will encounter but certain that they will gain more in their attempts than they would giving up. Yet when you make a leap of faith, believing without a doubt that you will land safely on the other side, you can accomplish almost anything you set out to do. A successful leap of faith requires your attention,as it will point you toward your ultimate destination.
ok so enough deep thoughts for the day....
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thats all I have to say for the day ~~jen nay~~
No this is not a dialog in a bollywood movie. These are lines said by a colonel in the Indian Army to his wife, 10 years back. I just happened to read this story in an old newspaper yesterday ( the newspaper was dated July 09), but reading it made my eyes moist. In todays world where couples divorce/separate on the drop of a hat citing 'incompatibility', this tale is really an eye opener. It says everything about love, caring, sharing, and also highlights the importance of the institution of marriage.
The said colonel was away fighting the intruders in Kargil, in 1999, when his wife was diagnosed with a tumor. Doctors at the Army hospital conveyed to her the news that after the operation, she would not be able to use her legs. When her husband got the news from the Army about this, he was given a few days off to visit her in hospital. After that he was back to war. The article doesnt say when exactly he said the words to her, but whenever he did, it would have conveyed a lot to his wife. After one operation, she was headed for another, in which she nearly went into coma, while her husband was busy fighting the enemy on the battlefield. While she was woried, that he did not become a casualty of war, he also on his part was equally worried about her. They could not meet for months, but the feeling remained with both inspite of the distance. He survived the war, and was back with his wife.
This story is 10 years old. The couple are living in Pune. What this story does highlights is that in any relation, its always the 'We' factor that is important and not the 'I' factor. It just says one thing .. 'As long as you are with me I can handle anything ... anything ... just dont give up on me .. I cant bear speration from you' . In today's times, where couples get married , and divorce, within 6 months( or at times go in for mutual separation barely one month after marriage), where breakups happen in love relations citing incompatibility, or some other reason ( Im just not into you .. or Its not happening .. are the standard lines one gets to hear), this story is like the light at the end of a dark tunnel. It is the beacon of hope .. which conveys a message, If you love someone, go out on a limb for him or her ... that is what love is all about. Love conquers all. That is where the sanctity of marriage comes from.. that someone is there for you, to see you through your tough times ... to help you smile when you are feeling low, to wipe your tears if you are in pain ....
O death do not come for me now ....
For I have a dream to live
I have a heart in which to beat
I have possibly a shoulder to lay my head down
I have tears to flow down my eyes ....
Those which I had long ago forgotten ..
In the pain and anguish of having lived a life full of strife
I see now a shade where I can rest a while ..
O death do not come for me now.... I have a dream to live
I have a load of aspirations to fulfill
I have stories to tell ...
I have tales to listen to ... I have eyes to see my reflection in ...
O death do not come for me now.. I have a dream to live.
I have lived the life which was not mine, have taken part in struggles not of my doing
Have toiled hard in the desert of life without a trace of water or shade .. for what seems like eons ...
Now I see far in the horizon .. a shade that beckons me closer and closer it gets by every step I take
I desperately want to rest my tired limbs ... I want to feel the cool water flowing over me
I need the cool shade of dark tresses .... over my face to shield me from the blazing sun
O death do not come for me now .... I have a dream to live.
Its true I was searching for you all this time ...
Its true I was hunting you out, in the frustration of living life itself
But having reached a point where I see some succour.... I want to rest now .. and enjoy my life a bit ...
I want to know the warmth of a beating heart ... I want to want feel the soft breeze of love
Wash away all my fatigue .. replenish my spirit, heal it to the point where I get rejuvenated
And face life again with a flourish
O death do not come for me now ... for I have a dream to live ...
I have my own castles to build .. I have to color them with my aspirations so deep
If you do wish to give me a gift as such give me the hope that my dreams will come true
And that I will finally be able to live the life I so desperately wanted.
O death do not come for me now ... for I have a dream to live.
T20 is the newest version of cricket, and it has caught on like wildfire. I do watch a lot of cricket, both domestic and international level, from matches played in the 70s ( they are shown as Classics) to current day slugfests. Slugfest , a nice word for T20 ( atleast till the IPL came on in south Africa, which sort of evened the contest between bat and ball). Come to think of it, I could help but wonder how some of the earlier Indian cricketers ( from mid 70's to 90's) would have fared in this latest version of cricket - T20. I got down to jotting down a few names of cricketers who had played for India in the last 20 odd years, and came up with a list of people who according to me would have actually done really well in the T20 circuit had it been in vogue back during their playing days.
Krishnamachari Srikanth
Anyone who remembers the World Cup Final of '83, will also remember Krishnamachari Srikanth for the way he clobbered the West Indian bowling attack to all parts of Lords. This Tamil Nadu dasher was always on the lookout for quick runs, and backed it up with some memorable fielding as well. Towards the later part of his career he also rolled his arm over, and was pretty decent, if not so effective as his more illustrious spinning partners. He had the shots to clear the infield as well as the ability to score runs in a flood if not a torrrent. He would have had a ball in T20.
Navjyot Singh Siddhu
Before the likes of Afridi and Ricardo Powell became household names duie to their hitting prowess, Navjyot Singh Siddhu had made a name for himself as one who could tonk the cricket ball a long way. big hitting was second nature to this tall Sikh, since he always seemed to hit big sixes. Anyone who remembers him taking on the happles Peter Taylor(Australia), and Stephen Bock(New Zealand) in the 1987 World Cup will bear testimony to the fact that this guy would have taken to T20 cricket like a fish takes to water. To add to his batting skills, he was a pretty safe fielder.
Mohammed Azharuddin
The master with the silken touch, he wowed teammates and opponents with his batting. Always the touch artist, he aslo had the timing as well as the power to go for the big hits, with ease. His fielding would have also made him a dangerous customer anywhere, either in the infield or outfield.
Surinder Khanna
This hard hitting wicketkeeper batsman from Delhi was known for his penchant for quick runs. Annnouncing his arrival with a bang ( two successive fifties in the inaugural Asia cup 51* against Lanka, and 56 against Pakistan), he failed to do much in the international scene. He would have really turned the screws on , given a six over license to annihilate the oppostion bowling. Safe with the keepers gloves, if not spectacular.
Sandeep Patil
The man who tamed Bob Willis in his lair, took on Imran Khan and Sarraz Nawaz in their den. The one and only Sandeep Patil. A hard hitting batsman, who had big shots. A decent part time bowler and gerneally safe pair of hands make him another ideal candidate for the T20 bandwagon. He would have enjoyed himself.
Kapil Dev
And what does one say about this gentleman, Kapil Dev Nikhanj. The Haryana hurricane. We all know his exploits with the ball, and as Imran Khan put it - 'When I saw Kapil Dev bat, it seemed he had the power to destroy bowling attacks'. Ask Zimbabwe whom he clobbered for that unbelievable 175* at Tunbridge Wells, or even more ask Donald, Brian McMillan, Merryck Pringle and Craig Matthews, whom he took apart in that explosive knock of 129 in South Africa in the third test in 1992. Kapil Dev could hit the ball big time, and he would have been an automatic choice for T20. And boy, knowing this great man, he would have had people asking for more.
Ajay Jadeja
A quick silver fielder, and more than handy batmsan. He hit the international circuit in the 1992 World cup , and immmedialtey garnered headlines for his wnderful fielding. By the time the next World Cup came along he was one of the most destructive hitters. Single handedly destroyed Waqar Yunus and Pakistan's hopes of makiing it to the finals in 1996, when he rammed them in Bangalore. By 1999 he had become a part of the famed batting lineup boasting of Sachin Tendulkar, Rahul Dravid, Azhar and Saurav Ganguly. A very good runner between the wickets, and a handy gentle medium pacer, Jadeja , like all others in this list would have taken to T20 like a fish takes to water.
Subroto Banerjee
Made his debut in 1992, in Australia. Soon after, an injury laid him low, and his career was over before it started. A good hitter of the ball, and a decent fast medium bowler, Subroto would fit any lower middle order due to his all round skills. And given his ability to clear the fence, the ability to make quick runs, he would also have become a part of the T20 bulwark.
Robin Singh
The man who never gave up.Every time India was in a crisis, Robin singh did his bit. There are numerous matches which he as won off his bat, when the chips were down.The Indian captain who never was ( He was supposed to lead a side for a tournamnet when the Government and BCCI had a stand off. Things were amicably sorted out and that was that). He made his debut in 1989, he made his debut in ODI cricket against the same country from where his parents had migrated. Didnt do well. However, when he did hit the international scene a good sever years later, he had Mark Waugh and Stuart Law off successive deliveries. A left handed batsman, who always kept going at the opposition, not only with the ocassional big hit, but with well judged singles as well, besides being a brilliant fielder and more than useful medium pacer, Robin Singh would have also gelled well in T20.
Vijay Bharadwaj
An off spinning all rounder and brilliant fielder, besides being a batmsan who could hit the ball a long way. Bharadwaj made people notice him as soonn as he hit the international circuit, but poor form, and an eye injury destoryed a career that would have made people sit up and watch.
Chetan Sharma
Yes, he is the man whom Javed Miandad destroyed with that one stroke in Sharjah. He is also tha man whgo took on Mcdermott, Bruce Ried, Mike Whitney and Greg Matthews in 1985-86, hitting his maiden (and only) half century in test cricket. He is also the man who took a century off Graham Gooch and his buccaneers. He is also the first Indian to take a hattrick, and the first man to take a hattrick in a World Cup match. And , he is also the man who crash landed Mike Gatting and his band of merry men in whites in the 1986 series in England in 1986. A lower order batsman who could tonk the ball into orbit, and a more than handy fast medium bowler, besides being a safe fielder in the deep, Chetan Sharma would have hogged some limelights in the T20 circuit.
Sometimes my heart hurts ...I dont know why
I fee like I wanna cry but my eyes run dry
I look up at the heavens and see if there is God around
I cant find him , I dont know why
Sometimes I feel like I have been shot .. I look around my self to see if there is a red blot
I dont find any .. yet my heart hurts I dont know why
Sometimes I feel so lonely ... I search for a shoulder ... to put down my head
Cry as if there would be no tomorrow ... Cry as if I myself was dead
Empty my heart of every sense of feeling I have .....
Cleanse it of every memory I have ...
Sometimes I find myself all alone .. like in a raging desert
Sometimes I feel like Im drowning ... in a flood
Sometimes there is this feeling that life has been cruel
But then everyone says life is nothing but a duel.
You fight your fate, and it fights you in return
Until your ashes turn up in some godforsaken urn
And so I look up to the heavens ... and try to ask him
Why do you forsake me O lord .. Why ?
As I write this article, the semifinal lineup of IPL2 has already been drawn. Royal Challengers (Bangalore), Deccan Chargers make up positions 3 and 4 , joining Chennai Super Kings (Chennai) and Delhi DareDevils (Delhi) as the final two teams for the semifinal clash of what has been a very successful advertisement of the newest brand of cricket.
Nothing pleased my heart more than Royal Challengers and Deccan Chargers making the semifinal cut. During the last IPL these very two teams had faced a lot of flak for being 'test teams'. They finished at 7 and 8 respectively, last time round, but then reworked their strategies and the results are there for everyone to see. To the chagrin of all, Royal Challengers and Deccan Chargers have more or less fielded the same teams that they had last time round. For Deccan Chargers, last year, their batting revolved around Adam Gilchrist, Herschelle Gibbs, Shahid Afridi, Rohit Sharma, VVS Laxman, followed by biffers like Andrew Symonds, Venugopal Rao, Chaminda Vaas, with RP Singh and Pragyan Ojha making up their bowling lineup along with Nuwan Zoysa and Vaas. The same was the case with Royal Challengers, with Jacques Kallis, Rahul Dravid, Wasim Jaffer making up the mainstsay of their batting, followed by Ross Taylor, Virat Kohli, Misbah-ul-haq, Mark Boucher to do the biffing, and a bowling lineup led by Zaheer Khan, Praveen Kumar and the indomitable Anil Kumble. However, big names do not guarantee results, only match performance does, and that was where these two teams floundered. This time round however, the same (more or less) lineups barring of course Afridi , Misbah and Zoysa got their teams the results.
What has been heartening to see is that irrespective of the age factor, seasoned campaigners like Gilchrist, Kumble, Dravid (in the initial phases of IPL2), Kallis, Gibbs have all taken upon themselves the responsibility to guide their teams through. This has emboldened youngsters like Rohit Sharma, Virat Kohli, the so far unheard of Manish Pandey and Tirumalsetti Suman to back up the seniors with some decent performances of their own. True both teams lost some close matches, ones which they were supposed to win, but theye won when it mattered the most. While the Chargers clobbered all and sundry in the first 4 matches that they played, the seemingly dead and buried Royal Challengers surprised all by their timely resurgence.
The amount of criticsm which was heaped upon both teams after the end of the first IPL was unfair and scathing. Even their sponsors/owners added to the frenzy by making statements both harsh and uncalled for. To be fair to the critics, the performances of both teams did not match the hype of the players that were part of them. Only Adam Gilchrist, Rohit Sharma (Chargers) and Rahul Dravid( Challengers) did anything noteworthy in the entire tournament. At the end of the IPL2 auction, Dr Mallya was quoted to have said ' This is no longer a test team now' of his Royal Challengers. This was due to the advent of players like Robin Uthappa, Jesse Ryder and Kevin Petersen. How these two gentelemen quantified thier hype into results is there for everyone to see. While Petersen flopped miserably as a captain and a batsman, Ryer played more as a bowler, getting out on the first ball most of the times ( He had probably only one score of note 32 against Kings XI). And the less one speaks of Robin Uthappa, the better it is. For someone who was known for his explosive batting, Uthappa would give the feeling he was playing not in Newlands, but in Barabados and the opposition bowlers were Joel Garner, Malcolm Marshal and Michael Holding. True he was decent behind the stumps, but his primary role was that of a bastman, to score quick runs, and except for one match against Mumbai Indians, where he showed some glimpses of his skill, Robin Uthappa was a total and collosal failure for his side. It fell back of Rahul Dravid ( in ithe inital 4-5 matches) like always , and he did the best he could, with scores of 66, 20, 48 (off only 26 balls), till a sojourn to India and back robbed him of some of the touch he possessed. One hopes he goes ahead to play two more gritty knocks ( in the Semi Final and Final) and ensure his team reaches the pinnacle of success. Jacques Kallis had a horrendous beginning to the tournament, but came into his own, with scores of 62, 32, 56*, and has taken on himself , the responsibility to stay there at the crease and ensure that his team reaches a good total. Virat Kohli has not been at his epxlosive best, but has chipped in with the runs ( 50 in 32 balls against Punjab, and a couple of quick innings here and there), nothing more important than the 19 he scored in the last league match against the Chargers. Together with Manish Pandey ( another unsung talent), he added 36 in the last 18 balls of the innings. What makes this partnership more important is the fact that the final margin of victory was only 1 runs. Manish Pandey came into the party in the last match getting his chance to play at the top of the order, and boy oh boy did he grab it with both hands. While his batting was not so pleasing to the eye, it was effective , and anyone who gets a century (114* to be precise) and carries on , at any type of cricket be it Tests, ODIs, or T20, needs to get a special mention. That he became the first Indian to get to a century in IPL was only fitting, since the Challengers had seen Brendon Mcullum clobber their bowling attack to smithreens enroute a manic 158*. That reconrd or those memories may not be beaten so soon, but the Challengers will have sweet memories of this year. Last but not the least I come to a gentleman , who has been an embodiment of the true fighting spirit of the game, a warrior in the truest sense of the word, and a man who along with Rahul Dravid and Adam Gilchrist would rank , in Shakepspeares words ' honourable men'. Not that the others are not honorable, they are, but these three gentlemen have given the words honour, decency, courage and resilience a different dimension, taken it to an altogether different level. Anil Kumble , took on the reins of the Royal Challengers, when the team looked to be headed for a clobbering for the seond straight year. Instead what happened was that his composure and self belief rubbed on to his team, and they rose from the ashes like phoenixes to decimate the opposition. Where Petersen was struggling to get his team together, Anil not only got them together, but helped them perform to the best of their abilities.
Unlike the Challengers, Deccan Chargers did not have any transfers into their side, but Gilchrist,Gibbs ( all those ducks notwithstanding) and Rohit Sharma took it upon themselves to haul the reputation of their team out of the precipice where it had fallen last season. To make matter worse they did not have the services of the explosive (even if erratic) Shahid Afridi. Yet someone or the other chipped in and ensured that thier team had a fighting total, and while bowling, lesser known names like Rohit Sharma ( hitherto unknown for his bowling skills) and Suman ( unheard of ) became a handful. Add to that the double edged sharpness of R P Singh and Chaminda Vaas ( though he figured in only two matches) and the guile of Pragyan Ojha, the Chargers bulldozed thier way into contention. True, their batting order self destructed more than once, to lose matches they should have won, but like I said earlier, they won when it mattered. Rohit Sharma figured in the list of bowlers who had taken hat-tricks this time, while Suman and Pragyan spun webs of deceit around the opposing batting lineups. And what can one say about RP Singh , the leading wicket taker of the IPL2, and Chaminda Vaas, the ageless wizard. They all contributed when it mattered, and the results are there for all to see. Adam Gilchrist has taken it upon himself to ensure his players the backing they required, giving them the space they needed, the comfort level , to get the besst out of them. And how his teammates have repaid his faith. How else does one explain Rohit Sharma getting a hat-trick and derailing Mumbai Indians, in a match the Chargers were on the way to losing. How else does one explain Rudra Pratap Singh's repeated spells where he wrecked opposition batting lineups.
The one thing common between both teams - The inner strengths of their captains rubbed off on them, and today they are ready to take on the next challenge. To be the best team in the IPL. They have shown all what they are capable of, not on paper, but on the merit of their performances, and now they need to go that last mile to show that they are the best. Only one will reach the pinnacle, and for one I would like to watch Kumble and Gilchrist square off once more in this IPL, at the summit. But then cricket is a game of uncertainities, and T20 even more uncertain. But till it doesnt happen otherwise, why should I rob myself of the luxury of imagining it ?
